Dear Wolfy,
we understand your concern and you wanna full control over your hosted chat,
but please be reasonable to see the point that we can only allow you to manage the client end on your server, not the server end on our server. Cause that's how the hosting system works, as always.
For the server changes, please contact our 24*7 online supporter in
http://www.123flashchat.com/demo.html
they will be happy to assist you to do the changes as long as you tell them your host address, and all our supporters are capable of doing so.
Don't forget to offer your identity proof so that our supporters will be confirmed you're the real owner of the hosted chat.
If this solution can't satisfy you, then I'm afraid we can only refund you hosting fee,
your original $10 covers from 2006-03-10 to 2006-04-10,
as half month passed already and you've enjoyed half month hosting service,
I can only refund you $5.
Let me know your decision.